Date Night?

Do you go on regular Date Nights? We don’t.

The last movie Mr. Sandwich and I saw in the theater was True Grit.

Hey, it could be worse. It could have been the John Wayne version. Now that would have been a long time since Date Night.

And that was our last movie, not our last evening out. We did go out to dinner for our anniversary in March, and had a wonderful time. That dinner, by the way, was something we’d been talking about doing since Mr. Sandwich’s birthday. In 2010.

Do I think that parents need to connect with each other in ways that aren’t focused on their children? Yes, absolutely. Do I think that we need to have Date Night to do that? No, not in the slightest.

When Mr. Sandwich and I started dating, he traveled to meet my parents. (This was our third date. It didn’t indicate anything about our relationship, it’s just how things went.) They showed him around town, and at one point, he said, “I feel bad leaving your parents in the car.” I said, “Oh, don’t worry about them. For them, retirement is one big date.”

Mr. Sandwich took that to heart. We have what we call “Home Depot dates.” What do we do? We go to Home Depot. To us, spending time together is a date, no matter who else is there, or where we are.

Our entire relationship was long-distance. What that meant was that when we actually managed to be together, what we wanted to do was be together. One of us would fly across the country. We’d spend the day meeting friends and touring the local area. In the evening, we’d go back to the apartment and eat pizza or Chinese food while watching TV shows we both liked, and talking about them.

Exciting? Maybe not to some, but it suited us, and it still does.

We like to go to the movies. We don’t get there as often as we’d like–we missed Bridesmaids and Captain America and The Hunger Games, and it’s looking like we’re going to miss The Avengers, which is really disappointing.

But at some point, no doubt, Amazon Prime streaming will come to our rescue, and we’ll catch up on what we’ve missed. It won’t be the same as the big screen, but we’ll see them together and talk about them.

Sounds like the perfect Date Night to me.

6 thoughts on “Date Night?

  1. We don’t get to do too many date nights ourselves, and I don’t mind so much. We tend to reserve the baby sitters for important events. For movies, we borrow them at the library and the last movie we saw was Harry Potter because we wouldn’t miss that! We tend to have date lunches where we’ll drop the little guy off so we can grab lunch or go see a play. Nighttime ones are more difficult to come by and we reserve those for work parties and events where we have to go.

    The next few months will be interesting though. We’re going to an out of town wedding with no kids, so it’ll be the first time the kiddo will sleep without us in the same house. We also scored Morrissey tickets so he’ll also be sleeping over grandma’s for that. We’ve never had him sleep over so it’ll be new, but I think it’s exciting for us, too. We can actually sleep in past 7:30am!!!

  2. We are just moving into the part of our lives where we can actually go to a movie. I don’t consider those to be the same kind of dates that other activities are because we can’t actually TALK to each other.

    I am glad I found you again. Notifications for your blog were stacked (sandwiched) in an email for another blog. Totally weird.

    1. How weird! Well, I’m glad you could find me again.

      We’ll get to movies again one of these days. Right now it takes us three nights to get through an episode of “Castle.” And that’s an episode from at least two seasons ago, mind you.

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